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Tips and tricks to create a happy Stress Free family

Stopping unpleasant behaviors such as:

  • Hitting

  • Cranky crying

  • Whining

  • Moaning

  • Nagging

  • Talking over you

  • Answering you with ‘I don’t know’ or a shrug

  • Tantrums

  • Lying

  • Ignoring you

  • Nose picking

  • Lip licking

  • Lagging behind after you’ve asked them to keep up

  • Not eating dinner

  • Constantly asking for something

  • Running away

  • Dropping food on the table, chair, floor

  • Intentional disrespect

  • Waking every night or morning screaming

  • Lazy talk not pronouncing words properly (after 3 yrs)

  • Saying every single thing that comes into their heads (after 3)

  • Wrecking siblings creations

  • Snatching

  • Wont go to bed, keeps getting up

  • Annoying siblings

  • Frustrated crying when they are old enough to use words

  • Taking things that aren’t theirs

  • Snatching

  • Being intentionally noisy while you’re on the phone

  • Being overly competitive

  • Not listening to instructions

  • Twisting and wiggling when you need them to be still

What should you do?  

  • Tell them to stop and why- in a firm but calm voice
  • Be congruent with your tone and mood but stay calm

  • Don’t use a pleading or stressed voice

  • Keep your energy high – higher than theirs, connect then lead

  • Observe their response

  • If necessary ask them to take a deep breath – again, then three times

  • Watch their body language, make them aware if its not serving them, such as holding their head to the side, jiggling, making weird noises, stomping, pulling at your clothes, if so, tell them to stop – firmer voice

  • Tell them to breath again

  • If they continue just dismiss them by walking away

  • Once they comply respond immediately, look happy
  • Say ‘thank you’ and why you are happy with them
  • Immediately start telling a funny or interesting story.
  • You want them to learn they are not in trouble but that they have just learnt      something about how to behave.
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Notes to remember

  • Teaching your child how to breathe out anger is a gift. Start from 12 months

  • Instant improving of your mood once the child is compliant then distracting them from feeling bad is teaching them the gift of resilience.

I find good manners and virtues absolutely necessary to teach our children from any age preferable as young as possible.

 

RESPONSIBILITY

From the Book of Virtues

 

IF YOU WERE - A little poem that reminds us of whose responsibilities we should take care of first

 

If you were busy being kind,

Before you knew it you would find

You’d soon forget to think was true

That someone was unkind to you

If you were busy being glad

And cheering people who are sad

Although your heart might ache a bit

You’d soon forget to notice it

 

If you were busy being good

And doing just the best you could

You’d not have time to blame someone

Who’s doing just the best they can

 

If you were busy being right

You’d find yourself too busy quite

To criticize your neighbor long

because he’s busy being wrong

 

if they make a mess

If they treat you or anything around them like a bin

if they don’t put their toys away

if they answer back

if they throw things inside

If they make too much noise

If they are over excited

If they eat with their hands an not the utensils

If they blah blah blah teach them about being responsible

Tips and tricks to create a happy Stress Free family

 

Teaching our children virtues that are on our values list

 

1. Stopping unpleasant behaviors such as……….

 

Biting

Hitting

Cranky crying

Whining

Moaning

Nagging

Talking over you

Answering you with ‘I don’t know’ or a shrug

Tantrums

Lying

Ignoring you

Nose picking

Lip licking

Lagging behind after you’ve asked them to keep up

Not eating dinner

Constantly asking for something

Running away

Dropping food on the table, chair, floor

Intentional disrespect

Waking every night or morning screaming

Lazy talk not pronouncing words properly (after 3 yrs)

Saying every single thing that comes into their heads (after 3)

Wrecking siblings creations

Snatching

Wont go to bed, keeps getting up

Annoying siblings

Frustrated crying when they are old enough to use words

Taking things that aren’t theirs

Snatching

Being intentionally noisy while you’re on the phone

Being overly competitive

Not listening to instructions

Twisting and wiggling when you need them to be still

Etc; etc; etc………






 

What should you do?  

In most cases it always the same

 

Tell them to stop and why- in a firm but calm voice

Be congruent with your tone and mood but stay calm

Don’t use a pleading or stressed voice

Keep your energy high – higher than theirs, connect then lead

Observe their response

If necessary ask them to take a deep breath – again, then three times

Watch their body language, make them aware if its not serving them, such as holding their head to the side, jiggling, making weird noises, stomping, pulling at your clothes, if so, tell them to stop – firmer voice

Tell them to breath again

If they continue just dismiss them by walking away

 

Once they comply respond immediately, look happy

Say ‘thank you’ and why you are happy with them

Immediately start telling a funny or interesting story.

You want them to learn they are not in trouble but that they have just learnt      something about how to behave.

 

Notes to remember

Teaching your child how to breathe out anger is a gift. Start from 12 months

Instant improving of your mood once the child is compliant then distracting them from feeling bad is teaching them the gift of resilience.

I find good manners and virtues absolutely necessary to teach our children from any age preferable as young as possible.

 

RESPONSIBILITY

From the Book of Virtues

 

IF YOU WERE - A little poem that reminds us of whose responsibilities we should take care of first

 

If you were busy being kind,

Before you knew it you would find

You’d soon forget to think was true

That someone was unkind to you

If you were busy being glad

And cheering people who are sad

Although your heart might ache a bit

You’d soon forget to notice it

 

If you were busy being good

And doing just the best you could

You’d not have time to blame someone

Who’s doing just the best they can

 

If you were busy being right

You’d find yourself too busy quite

To criticize your neighbor long

because he’s busy being wrong

 

if they make a mess

If they treat you or anything around them like a bin

if they don’t put their toys away

if they answer back

if they throw things inside

If they make too much noise

If they are over excited

If they eat with their hands an not the utensils

If they blah blah blah teach them about being responsible